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Old Jul 24, 2006, 08:17 AM   #21
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Since I have tons of negative problems that I shouldn't share on here, my parent's think I shouldn't hang out with negative people, when pratically most of my friends are negative people. Its like they're saying I shouldn't have any freedom or have a social life amongst my friends. I do love my parent's dearly, I would just like it if they gave me a little space because it seems as if they're suffocating me. I've had a really bad past and no one seems to understand. I am doing much better then I was doing before, I would just like it if my parent's saw that. They seem to no believe me or trust me anymore when i'm telling the 110% truth, and that makes me sad and hurt. I just don't know what to do with them anymore, everything i've tried doesn't seem to work anymore. I was diagnosed as a severe depressant and I have come a long way and i'm proud of myself for that. I would just like it if my parent's acknowleged me a little more for it instead of thinking about my past. I know its their job to worry and to want the best for me, but they should be able to trust and believe me that I am doing better.
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Old Jul 24, 2006, 08:48 AM   #22
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Since I have tons of negative problems that I shouldn't share on here, my parent's think I shouldn't hang out with negative people, when pratically most of my friends are negative people. Its like they're saying I shouldn't have any freedom or have a social life amongst my friends. I do love my parent's dearly, I would just like it if they gave me a little space because it seems as if they're suffocating me. I've had a really bad past and no one seems to understand. I am doing much better then I was doing before, I would just like it if my parent's saw that. They seem to no believe me or trust me anymore when i'm telling the 110% truth, and that makes me sad and hurt. I just don't know what to do with them anymore, everything i've tried doesn't seem to work anymore. I was diagnosed as a severe depressant and I have come a long way and i'm proud of myself for that. I would just like it if my parent's acknowleged me a little more for it instead of thinking about my past. I know its their job to worry and to want the best for me, but they should be able to trust and believe me that I am doing better.
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Old Jul 24, 2006, 08:54 AM   #23
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Kind-a. But I just wish life was easier than this.
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Old Jul 24, 2006, 08:59 AM   #24
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Yeah, but it could be worse. Imagine if you were one of those idiots who was born with a silver spoon in your mouth. You'd have no feeling, no sense of relation to others, you'd just get whatever you wanted, and ultimately you would be a fool.

Even though I have never met you, I can assure you, you are probably a better person than most for what you have endured.
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Old Jul 25, 2006, 05:15 AM   #25
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Yeah, but it could be worse. Imagine if you were one of those idiots who was born with a silver spoon in your mouth. You'd have no feeling, no sense of relation to others, you'd just get whatever you wanted, and ultimately you would be a fool.

Even though I have never met you, I can assure you, you are probably a better person than most for what you have endured.
I wouldn't assume that just because someone happens to be born in a well-off family or whatever, they are a jerk, though ... it's not necessarily the case. Though I do agree that problems often make a person better and stronger

As for family problems, it's been an uproar here tonight ... my brother and father do not get on, and Dad does not like my brother's girlfriend either. Well, he announced this afternoon that they are engaged ... Dad hit the wall, they're fighting and both crying right now ... I don't know what to do.....
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Old Jul 25, 2006, 03:24 PM   #26
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HoneyPie is right, we do want what is best for her. And we do give her space, even if she says we don't. We just don't want her hanging with a couple of people who aren't showing the best judgment at the moment. One is rather anti social the other is way off of the path.
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Old Jul 25, 2006, 03:31 PM   #27
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I am doing much better then I was doing before, I would just like it if my parent's saw that.
We know that and don't want to jeopardize your recovery just so you can hang out again with that certain someone who has the exact same problems as you. After all, it's only been a short time since you've even felt close to being better. Why risk it now?
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They seem to no believe me or trust me anymore when i'm telling the 110% truth, and that makes me sad and hurt. I just don't know what to do with them anymore, everything i've tried doesn't seem to work anymore. I was diagnosed as a severe depressant and I have come a long way and i'm proud of myself for that. I would just like it if my parent's acknowleged me a little more for it instead of thinking about my past. I know its their job to worry and to want the best for me, but they should be able to trust and believe me that I am doing better.
We trust you, HP. But, by doing that you must trust us as well. And trust that we, as your "parentals", (believe it or not) are doing what is best for you during this vulnerable time in your life. You're just mad right now and can't quite see straight at the moment. I understand that. I don't like your behaviour these days, but I understand it. How many parents do you know who listen and take time out to actually hear what you're saying?
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Old Jul 25, 2006, 03:36 PM   #28
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gee, i wish my daughter was home right now. she would have a lot to say in support of honey pie (and a lot to say about what an awful, controlling distrustful mom i am!). maybe when she's back in town...
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Old Jul 25, 2006, 04:50 PM   #29
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I have issues with my parents too. I got married young and after 2 kids left my husband(I found out he was cheating). I had to ask my parents to help me while I finished college and they constantly hold it over my head with that "I told you so" attitude. I managed to work 40 hours a week, get my BA and raise 2 kids and they still seem like they think I' m a failure, because I got divorced. They are very controlling and even though it has been 6 years since my divorce they still bring it up from time to time how I should have listened to them and not gotten married...even if it is true who wants to be reminded all the time? It just causes a lot of tension between them and I and even my kids and me.....I dont know, I wish they would just be happy I got away from a bad situation and graduated college and just be quiet about it!!!

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Old Jul 25, 2006, 05:22 PM   #30
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I have issues with my parents too. I got married young and after 2 kids left my husband(I found out he was cheating). I had to ask my parents to help me while I finished college and they constantly hold it over my head with that "I told you so" attitude. I managed to work 40 hours a week, get my BA and raise 2 kids and they still seem like they think I' m a failure, because I got divorced. They are very controlling and even though it has been 6 years since my divorce they still bring it up from time to time how I should have listened to them and not gotten married...even if it is true who wants to be reminded all the time? It just causes a lot of tension between them and I and even my kids and me.....I dont know, I wish they would just be happy I got away from a bad situation and graduated college and just be quiet about it!!!

Sorry... I had to vent.
Assuming you sought outside counseling to save your marriage, I think you did the right thing. I finally mustered up the courage to leave my first husband after 7 years of sheer torture to my dignity. My mother, being the devout Catholic, wanted me to stay with him. He wasn't cheating on me (I don't think....) but was a serious addict. You name it, he was addicted to it. After I told her the truth about her dear son-in-law, she was still against my decision to leave him. My father, on the other hand, was more supportive. I'm sorry your parents aren't quite so understanding. I've lived a hard life and, if anything, have gained some wisdom from my mistakes. Which is, apparently being misconstrued by HoneyPie as being "controlling".
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Assuming you sought outside counseling to save your marriage, I think you did the right thing. I finally mustered up the courage to leave my first husband after 7 years of sheer torture to my dignity. My mother, being the devout Catholic, wanted me to stay with him. He wasn't cheating on me (I don't think....) but was a serious addict. You name it, he was addicted to it. After I told her the truth about her dear son-in-law, she was still against my decision to leave him. My father, on the other hand, was more supportive. I'm sorry your parents aren't quite so understanding. I've lived a hard life and, if anything, have gained some wisdom from my mistakes. Which is, apparently being misconstrued by HoneyPie as being "controlling".
Yes, I sought counseling...and thanks for saying I did the right thing. I too feel I have learned from my mistakes...I had two small boys who saw their father cheat on me( I learned later my 4 year old was told to lie to me about where he and his father were if I ever asked)and I decided I didnt want my boys growing up thinking that was an acceptable way for a man to treat a woman. I havent ever been sorry about that.
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'Pie, your post worries me. You describe a bad past and in reading between the lines, it is not hard to find a whole lot of issues and baggage going on. I see that in other things you post.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I hope you are doing something about this. If things are as serious as you say, then you need more backup in 3D than we can give you online.
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'Pie, your post worries me. You describe a bad past and in reading between the lines, it is not hard to find a whole lot of issues and baggage going on. I see that in other things you post.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I hope you are doing something about this. If things are as serious as you say, then you need more backup in 3D than we can give you online.
Agreed. I mean, I doubt many people know what your going throug here. We will listen when you need us and do what we can, but we can't help in the long run.

Slightly on topic, my father wants me to take councelling because I told him I am attracted to girl's with emotional baggage, oddly enough. I'm not sure why it worried him, but it did. He told my mom and she laughed, because she thought he was trying to hard to be Father Of The Year.
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I was just wondering if we need a thread on blinks about airing dirty laundry.
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Since I have tons of negative problems that I shouldn't share on here, my parent's think I shouldn't hang out with negative people, when pratically most of my friends are negative people. Its like they're saying I shouldn't have any freedom or have a social life amongst my friends. I do love my parent's dearly, I would just like it if they gave me a little space because it seems as if they're suffocating me. I've had a really bad past and no one seems to understand. I am doing much better then I was doing before, I would just like it if my parent's saw that. They seem to no believe me or trust me anymore when i'm telling the 110% truth, and that makes me sad and hurt. I just don't know what to do with them anymore, everything i've tried doesn't seem to work anymore. I was diagnosed as a severe depressant and I have come a long way and i'm proud of myself for that. I would just like it if my parent's acknowleged me a little more for it instead of thinking about my past. I know its their job to worry and to want the best for me, but they should be able to trust and believe me that I am doing better.
HoneyPie, You wrote that post half your life ago, I would hope you see and understand now, what you didn't then. 15 years passing can add more than just years to your life. in 15 years you can gain understanding and insight your thinking and processes. I was 45 years old when you wrote all this. As I return to this thread and write this post I am 60 years old - and a much different person from then. I was struggling with depression back then too. About four years ago one of the dangdest situations brought about the awareness I lacked to help me find relief. I only hope for you that your moment of clarity has already found you or finds you sooner rather than later. You are a smart girl, you'll know what to do when it comes.
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