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Old Nov 16, 2006, 03:24 AM   #1
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Have you ever done this? One minute you are friendly with someone and then just moved on and forgot about them? Not something I would do but I have seen it done....
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 03:31 AM   #2
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I won't do this...when I 'drop people' it is usually after many attempts to keep it together.

I am dropped instantly often makes me wonder how I have offended them.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 03:44 AM   #3
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I've only done it on the rarest of circumstances and it's because they've done something reprehensible or because they've proven themselves to be a looney. I've never had it done to me in "real life", though I have had it happen a couple times on-line, but never with anybody I was really close to. I always figure you can't force people to be your friends and if they don't want to be, oh well, their loss, move on.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 04:18 AM   #4
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I did it with some "friends" at the start of this year BUT only because it was all I could do...this was after years and years of them giving me total sh*t.
I felt that my life is too short to surround myself with people that only make me feel bad so they had to go!
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 05:04 AM   #5
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A group of people I knew did it to me - it hurt (and still does) like hell. One minute it's all "come over and stay the weekend" and so forth, then it's block from all chat lists and non-answering of all texts and emails.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 07:58 AM   #6
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I did it once with an online friend. The friendship started out great. We met on a Smallville chat board. We bonded over the fact that she found out I was Morman. She even created a chat board just for a small group of friends.

She then met a guy she really liked and invited him over. She got so possesive of him. Even when he showed no interest in her, she gave him lots of attention and excluded me and others. She also started to change. She started using foul language and stopped going to church. I finially got fed up and dropped her.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 08:04 AM   #7
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This has happened to me over the years, but the one that comes to mind is when I was in first grade, I would walk home with a girl who lived a few streets over from mine. She would chat with me like we knew each other forever. Then, I got moved into her class and from that day, she never spoke to me again. All I did was wave to her.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 08:08 AM   #8
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A group of people I knew did it to me - it hurt (and still does) like hell. One minute it's all "come over and stay the weekend" and so forth, then it's block from all chat lists and non-answering of all texts and emails.
That sounds very strange, Harb.

It was too much for them having one of us intelligent
Beatlelinkers around, apparently.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 08:30 AM   #9
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I had a friend of 12 years do this to me out of the blue with no explanation, which was completely shocking. And to make matters worse she "dumped" me on a blogl!! Then about 5-6 months later she tried to get back in contact with me like nothing had happened...but I obviously wasn't ready to do that yet since I was still fuming. It's not a nice thing to do to a supposed best friend when there is no real reason behind it, except for the fact that you're having a bad day!
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 10:56 AM   #10
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I can relate to you folks and Ive had it happen to me many many times
sometimes I even wonder what is the point to try to make freinds
mabie Im too sensitive
even my wife and best friend left after seven years dropped me(for my other friend) and acts as If we never knew each other ..my Brother and my Father also dont seem interested in being freinds either
I have a friend phobia now
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 11:04 AM   #11
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So strange, the things that go on in people's heads. The ones
that drop us act like we should know what's going on?
At least we're not wasting more time with some of these people.

I think family members should make an effort, but there are so
many issues going on in family relationships, and for whatever
reason, some of those issues are difficult to work through.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 01:01 PM   #12
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This happened to me once with a friend I has since I was 5. All of the sudden she dropped me and started saying really bad things about me behind my back to my friends. I tried to work it out with her because we had been friends for so long but it just got worse.I still don't know what I did to tick her off so much.
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Old Nov 16, 2006, 02:47 PM   #13
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I have a friend phobia now
oh? is that what it is?
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I think I'm kind of under threat of this happening . . .
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Old Nov 17, 2006, 02:12 AM   #15
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That sounds very strange, Harb.

It was too much for them having one of us intelligent
Beatlelinkers around, apparently.

It was very weird and seemed to happen after I decided to not keep inviting myself to their places (which I thought was becoming rude of me to do so) and let their half of the friendship want to invite me instead.

It never happened and now I never hear from any of them.
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Old Nov 17, 2006, 11:45 PM   #17
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I never drop anyone. Once I had to give distance because my close friend hooked up with a satanist and some things just didn't jive well with me anymore. It was painful to watch her go down a path I felt was not for her. But I did say that if she got rid of him, I'd always be there for her. They did break up and now we are really close again.

But basically I will be friends with anyone and always. I find it really easy to like people. I'm still on good terms with everyone from my past.

I've had people drop me, sure... but in retrospect I don't feel they were such swell or understanding people so I do not miss them.
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Old Nov 20, 2006, 10:38 AM   #18
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As a teenager I was dropped by people. I used to wonder why & tried to find out, but never could get an answer. But like HC said... I found that these weren't always the most "swell" people anyway. Maybe we were just different & went out own ways?

I can't remember anyone I may have dropped. Hmmm . It's not like me to do so.

I usually do a "3 timer". I will contact someone 3 times in some form or another. If I get no answer/reply... I simply let them go as I figure they don't want anything to do with me.

There are millions of great people in the world. So when some move on, I just open the door to some more!
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Some people are just fair weather friends. They stick around when times are good, but when you really need a shoulder to cry on, they take off.
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I can honestly say I've tried not to drop anybody, but thinking about it, I was once advised by my mother to drop my group of friends my freshman year in high school. I remember thinking it was really a bad idea, but at the same time I also had a lot of friends in another group so for some reason I listened to my mom. The whole thing was a HUGE mistake and I ended up getting a horridly nasty note from a few girls who apparently didn't like the idea of me being friends with their friends. In the end, it was my original group of friends (who ended up being my closest friends all throughout high school) who made me feel better and who never even got mad that I had stopped spending time with them for a while.

Sad to say but these days I've pretty much been dropped by my so-called best friend of 12 years. A few of you will probably remember that she was the one who recently got married to a guy who is serious bad news. We have very little to do with each other now, though I've tried a few times to get in touch. Not the way I thought our friendship would go at all.
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